It’s not about what you SAY you are, but what you SHOW yourself to be!
Talking big is one thing but actually proving what you say is true is a completely different matter. In my experience I’ve found that the average person likes to talk about themselves. There is nothing wrong with this to some degree. There is a degree of self-confidence that we all need to have and talking about ourselves sometimes is healthy in that it reaffirms how we feel about ourselves (and we should DEFINITELTY feel good about ourselves).
What I find disturbing however is when people get over into bragging. I don’t like bragging. I prefer the more humble approach to life. First of all whatever you are bragging about should be evident right? I mean if you look so fly we should be able to look at you and tell right? If your kids are so awesome we should see it. In fact if you have it so good, shouldn’t we be telling you and complementing you? Not to be super spiritual or anything but there is a scripture about this in the bible.
Let another man praise you, and not your own mouth;
A stranger, and not your own lips.
That’s a good rule to live by in my opinion. When we brag about ourselves and who we are all we do is create pressure to live up to what we claim. Some people like this pressure but the way I see it, we have enough pressure from just life itself so why add more?
Others like to put people down to make themselves feel better so they brag about things that they know the next person can’t say about themselves. To me this is also lame. If you have to put someone else down to make yourself feel better then you obviously don’t feel too good about yourself to begin with.
The way I look at it, people who constantly brag are really trying to convince us that they are something. If you’re sure about who you are then you don’t have to convince anyone of anything. Again everyone can see who you are so the constant bragging and proclaiming really isn’t necessary.
What do your actions speak?
No matter what you have to say out of your mouth your lifestyle and corresponding actions tell the true story. Again most of the time when people make it a point to say they are something, they probably are far from it. The best way I can explain this is to do a simple social networking exercise. Go to your Facebook or twitter page and look at the screen names of your friends/followers. Notice how many people use the word “real”, “realest”, “ride or die” etc. in their screen name. You’re probably laughing now because we all know that those are usually the fakest people around! If you’re so real we will notice. No need to remind or convince us!
In time, the true character of a person will be revealed. If you’re a good person we will all see that. There is no need to put on a front for other people in order to impress anyone. Just wake up every day and be the best that you can be. In time, others will be singing your praises for the great person that you are and if not, who cares?
By the way what movie is the above picture from?