Here is another post from my old blog that I thought would be good to share. Seems like a lot of my peeps are struggling right now.
We started the week off with motivation and we’re ending it the same way!
Enjoy and tell me what you think!
How to Deal With Difficult Circumstances
We all at one point or another faced a situation or circumstance that was difficult to deal with. Losing a job, a loved one, or going through a divorce for example can be a hard thing to cope with. Sometimes we cause these things in our lives through our own actions but then there are other times where things just happen. You can live your life to the best of your ability and do the best that you can and then BAM! Something hits you and you may feel like you din’t do anything to precipitate it. Regardless of why or how these difficulties came upon you, I want to encourage you to KEEP YOUR HEAD UP (hear Tupac song playing in the background lol).
We must understand that how we deal with a negative circumstance plays a vital role in our overall outcome and quality of life. When something bad hits us, we can easily just sit there and take it. We can mope around and be depressed or whatever. Make no mistake about it, sitting around feeling sorry for yourself WILL NOT fix the problem. Tears while they can help relieve us for a moment and are often necessary for a moment, will not magically make the problem or issue go away. Many times a prolonged “pity party” is just gonna make the situation worse.
Now on the flip side, we can deal with a situation in a positive manner. After we take a moment to digest and contemplate our situation (maybe have a cry or whatever lol), we must take action. Negative situations do not have to overtake us. We can win indeed. Here are four things that we must do in order to make it through the storm. As you read them, lets reflect on our own life and see where we are at…
1. Have Faith. You have to believe that everything will be ok. This is where a belief in a higher power comes into play. Draw strength from your faith. Even if you don’t believe in a higher power, you have to understand that you were created with the ability to overcome. There is an innate resilience that we are all born with. Believe in it. Believe in yourself. You have to know that you know that you will make it. Sometimes faith is the only thing that you have.
2. Be Thankful. When things happen to us, it’s so easy to focus on the negative. However you must focus on the positive. (i.e. if you cant see, be thankful that you can hear, etc.). Remember things can always be worse. I like to look at it this way, whenever I am struggling, I have to think about the fact that there is always someone worse off than me. As long as I am alive then there is always someone who is worse off (I see dead people lol j/k). There is just something about being thankful. It can create a great feeling within!!!
3. Focus on helping others. Look at others people’s needs and make yourself useful. It’s always good when you can brighten someone’s day or improve the quality of their circumstances. They say it’s more blessed to give than to receive (actually Jesus said that) and it’s so true. If you don’t think so then you’ve got to look at yourself in the mirror for real.
Another benefit of helping others is that it helps get the focus off of yourself temporarily and you can for a moment forget about your own troubles. You do this enough and you will find yourself being depressed less and feeling better overall.
4. Invest in Yourself. It’s time to work on you. Often we allow ourselves to get down in the dumps about something and this wont allow us to move forward and improve. Life is all about constantly going to the next level. If you’re not moving forward, you are going back. Many times negative circumstances attack our self esteem. We can feel like we are simply not worthy of something better than what we are currently experiencing. Working on yourself makes you feel better because you can envision yourself improving and as a consequence you do actually get better!!!
You know that dream that you always had? That hobby that you used to love to do that you just stopped. Well when you’re down or going through something, that’s a good time to get back up and go after these things. Remember some of the greatest accomplishments began during dark times.
You may be hurting but you’re not alone. Other people are going through it as well. Reach out and help them! Finally forget all the stupid stuff and reach after your goals.